PEARL ONE

BAKERS VS. THE ICING EATERS

“It is not the beauty of a building you should look at, it’s the construction of the foundation that will stand the test of time.”-David Allan Coe

 

How many people conduct their relationships like cake making? How many people would rather eat the icing than to wait for the cake to completely bake? I am quite sure all of us have experienced icing relationships. There’s an attraction between you and the other person, causing sex to be upon the brain and infatuation! Sometimes the two people will go as far as to say that they found love! But just like icing, sex and infatuation aren’t intended to be the foundation to the relationship, they are enhancers.  Both parties have dabbled into the icing so much (physical attraction), they’ve forgotten the importance of friendship and communication, now desperately trying to find them. Regardless of sex and attraction, it will not be enough to sustain your relationship for the long haul.

Having said all of that, think of your relationship as a cake baking process.  What ingredients do you need in order for your cake to rise and not fall? The main ingredients you want to be sure to add are friendship, communication, and respect. First you add these ingredients to the bowl of patience, make sure to stir properly ensuring that all ingredients are mixed together.  Second, add trust to your cake pan, so that your cake will not stick to the pan and will support the cake under heat.  Last, place your relationship into the oven of love. Though there will be intense heat and the waiting time will bring anxiousness, love will cause your relationship to rise and form a firm foundation. Be wise not to hinder with insecurities, for your relationship may go flat and you will have to start over.

Like all things, there’s a set time and season. Once your relationship is tested by the heat of love, then move the relationship to a cool place of peace. During this cooling period, the relationship firms in its position. Before accessorizing your relationship, be sure that the relationship has been injected with love thoroughly. Since you can’t depend on appearance, use the toothpick of maturity to be sure it’s done all the way through. If not, your relationship may be prematurely cooked.

After firmness has been confirmed, now is the time to accessorize your relationship with intimacy and sex!! It’s left up to you two to make your relationship as beautiful as you desire!! You can use any pleasurable colors and flavors!!

PEARL: Relationships that begin and end with icing (sex and attraction) destroy the experience. The ingredients, moistness and subtle flavors of the cake (relationship) set the tone for a delicious experience.